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Αυτός ο λογαριασμός στο Instagram βαρέθηκε τον κλισέ φετιχισμό για τις Ασιάτισσες και βγάζει στη φόρα όλα τα σεξιστικά μηνύματα (NSFW)

Αυτός ο λογαριασμός στο Instagram βαρέθηκε τον κλισέ φετιχισμό για τις Ασιάτισσες και βγάζει στη φόρα όλα τα σεξιστικά μηνύματα (NSFW)
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*Προσοχή, κάποιοι αναγνώστες μπορεί να κρίνουν ότι οι εικόνες που ακολουθούν, είναι ενοχλητικές.

Έρευνες έχουν δείξει ότι οι περισσότεροι άντρες -και όχι μόνο οι Ασιάτες- στα διάφορα dating apps που συνήθως ψάχνουν κάτι πιο χαλαρό, δείχνουν μεγαλύτερη προτίμηση για τις Ασιάτισσες από ότι για άλλες γυναίκες.

Αυτό σημαίνει ότι λαμβάνουν και αρκετά σεξιστικά και ακραία -σεξουαλικού περιεχομένου- μηνύματα.

Το ίδιο συνέβαινε και με τη Lillian που λάμβανε σχεδόν καθημερινά τέτοια μηνύματα από άντρες που δήλωναν ανοιχτά τι ήθελαν να τις κάνουν στο κρεβάτι. Συνειδητοποίησε στην πράξη αυτόν τον φετιχισμό που υπάρχει για τις γυναίκες τις Ανατολής. Εκτός από τα σεξιστικά σχόλια που λάμβανε, κάποια ήταν και ρατσιστικά για τη φυλή της, όπως αυτός που της έγραφε ότι ήθελε να τον γιατρέψει από τον «κίτρινο» πυρετό του...

Αποφάσισε λοιπόν να δημιουργήσει ένα λογαριασμό στο Instagram με το όνομα @thefleshlightchronicles όπου βγάζει στη φόρα όλα τα ενοχλητικά μηνύματα που λαμβάνει για να γνωστοποιήσει το πρόβλημα που αντιμετωπίζουν οι γυναίκες της Ασίας, όταν αντιμετωπίζονται σαν αντικείμενο του σεξ.

Congratulations you’ve almost made it through the White male softboy canon! You’ve successfully read the Jack Kerouac softboy, the Mac Demarco softboy etc, but now, you’ll face the ultimate PoS: the Philosoprince of Softlords, who hails either from the Old World or old money in the New World. I’m talking generations of Oxbridge or Harvard/Princeton/Yale. Luckily for you though I’ve got the Sparknotes 💋. This PoS can be found at his family’s Alma matter or at a small prestigious liberal arts college or in the library, crying and nutting on a vintage edition of Kierkegaard’s Fear and Trembling. He loves Romantic-era poetry and maybe he’ll write a poem about you. Or rather, his desire to have sex with you. Because let’s be real, the most you’ll ever be in any of his writings is a dimensionless piece of flesh. He grew up in all-male boarding schools and pastoral scenes of adolescent corporeal longing but he’s a new man now– faux wokeness is this season’s hottest trend! Catch him quoting Audre Lorde at you or meticulously crafting a sex playlist of only Black female artists. It all goes with the aesthetic. And so will you after you have sex with him, if you’re a WOC, as a token of his moral glow-up. Conquest of the exotic never goes out of style (and hasn’t for 500 years!). By now he’ll have sucked you in with his poetry, his letters, his professed desire for something real, and his faux sympathy for your identity politics. But—caution dear reader!—this PoS loses interest faster than he can ejaculate (which is pretty damn fast!). He’ll tell you he’s in love with someone else, ghost you, and then gaslight you if you get angry. After all, he Romanticizes his own mental illness but won’t hesitate to call you crazy when it’s convenient for him. In summary: you’ve been fucked (over). Xoxo, gossipfleshlight 😘🌹

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Fuck equality this is the utopia that White men fight for 😍🤩😫

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Tbh the New Yorker wrote him a glowing review

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"Millennial Garbagé"

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I have a lot of beautiful friends, and at one point in my life, most of them happened to be beautiful White women. These messages speak to insecurities I had when I was younger, insecurities that many WOC still struggle with, about worth and respect and love in a body that is not White. Asian women are "the most desirable" — or so I've been told, by both online dating statistics and creepy White men at the club. Sometimes I can even delude myself into thinking I'm conventionally attractive. The reality though is that I am not, because the most that I (along with other WOC) can ever be seen as in this society is conventionally fetishizable. I am reminded of it time and time again, from these messages on social media to the way I am treated by White men in relation to White women. I am reminded again and again that I am nothing more than an exotic side project, a thing to be used and discarded once a "legitimate" White woman comes along. Please don't reassure me that I'm pretty in the comments— I've already made peace with my body. But to all the women of color who haven't, I want you to know that you aren't alone in this pain, that you are valid, because worth is inherent and not constructed. You have lived long in your skin, and the beautiful thing is not how other people perceive it, but how you've suffered and then made it yours. ✨

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The myth of female sexual liberation: today we are taught that there is power in reclaiming female sexuality by participating in hook-up culture, that gender equality exists because we are allowed to fuck whoever we want. I think often about what this “freedom” means. I wonder how free I am when men call me a slut. I wonder how free I am when my body is policed on social media, how certain parts of me are deemed capable of moral corruption. I wonder how free I am when I have to cover up at work. I wonder how sexually free I am when the government limits my access to birth control and other reproductive rights. I wonder how free I am when I walk home at night and hold my keys in my hand because I am afraid. I wonder how free I am when I have been sexually assaulted and am, to this day, still dealing with the aftermath of this violence. And I wonder about all women, all femmes, because the idea of female sexual liberation does not apply equally across all groups. Can we really say women are sexually liberated when more than half of all trans women will experience sexual assault in their lifetime, and when Black women make up 87% of all trans women that are murdered. Can we really say women are sexually liberated when queer women and women of color are constantly fetishized. Can we really say women are sexually free when asexual women are castigated for their decision to not have sex. Female sexual liberation is a myth fed to us by straight cis men because its narrow definition benefits them. Many of you who follow me are young femmes, and I beg of you, before you decide to buy wholesale into hook up culture and think of yourself as free, to recognize the context in which we exist and tell yourself that this freedom is limited and that we deserve more. All of us. So much more.

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